Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Would The Perfect Donor Please Stand Up

We always knew we wanted to start a family but being two women in a committed relationship, we didn't know where to begin. We embarked on an extensive internet search coming to the conclusion that we would need two things: a fertility doctor and a donor.

After months of meticulously searching for a the perfect altruist, we finally narrowed down the perspectives from ten to five, and finally to three. Three catalog numbers, three health reports, three personality profiles, three childhood photos. In the wise words of SchoolHouse Rock, "Three is the magic number" right? Well, in our case, THREE is TWO too many. Sigh.

We knew the main criteria for our perfect donor would be excellent health records, height (as we are both tall), blue eyes (since one of us has brown eyes and one has blue, we looked back to our grammar school days when we learned about eye color dominance and wanted to make sure that our children would have a chance to have either of our eye colors), and athletic (as we both are).

We knew we both wanted to carry a child and therefore determined that our donor would be the integral component that would interconnect our children. This decision only made our current deliberation that much more important.

In time, three narrowed to two and it soon became very clear to us who our donor should be.